tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post9217260079468910658..comments2023-04-03T12:01:30.065+01:00Comments on Life is short. So fill it with debate and discussion.: Gays are too GayAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11093393218492406921noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-12042216517750825902011-11-21T20:38:39.106+00:002011-11-21T20:38:39.106+00:00I'm just going to hijack your rant with a rant...I'm just going to hijack your rant with a rant of my own. It's slightly similar, it shares the ideas of conforming to society. <br />As soon as a gender is established, whether that be through a scan or at birth, you're subjected to the hopes and conventions that surround your genitalia. This could be through your parents, or through society.<br /><br />These stereotypes that are primarily attached to genders actually make me a little sick. I'm gay and I know if either of my parents were to find out at this moment in time, all of those conventions that are formed (just from my physical appearance) would shatter. I'm nearly 17 and over the past 2 years my dad has been very vocal about how I should get a girlfriend and get down to the "good old rumpy pumpy". I'm pretty sure these are just last ditch efforts, I think he realised that I was gay a long time ago. I actually knew from an early age that I was going to disappoint my family when it came down to marrying (a woman) and continuing the family name/blood. That's a lot of pressure, and ultimately it leads to denial. Just because of my physical appearance, I have all of these expectations, I don't think that's healthy and I'd wish society would realise this too. <br /><br />I can assure you that this isn't going to turn into some transexual rant. I'm perfectly happy with my penis and I'm perfectly happy liking other men. But, I believe that gender is something more fluid, I don't think that your genitalia should just automatically assume that you're going to be this person, marry this person, do this and do that. I think that as soon as people realise that people should be defined as people and not as male/ female then, well things would be easier; for the people who are scared of disappointed society and for the society that is going to be disappointed. Ultimately, I'm just agreeing with the person above me talking about accepting people as individuals, I'd just thought I'd share a different aspect of your rant.Robnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-74908034585238168972011-06-11T13:50:26.448+01:002011-06-11T13:50:26.448+01:00Another well presented blog in my opinion Nathan. ...Another well presented blog in my opinion Nathan. I agree with much of what you said. I hate the whole label thing - it demeans a person to be neatly categorised in a box. Labelling leads to the worst type of stereotyping. Its is wrong to say all gays are the same just like it would be to say all blacks are the same or all women are the same. Diversity means more than just embracing sexuality, race, religion, sex - it's about embracing people for who they are as an individual not what they are. Thank you for another entertaining blog :-)Gazabellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15134330208094418890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-7208461546666651672011-06-10T12:15:26.335+01:002011-06-10T12:15:26.335+01:00generally speaking if people don't remind them...generally speaking if people don't remind them otherwise then how are things going to change? The fact of the matter is we're not equal, not yet, there's still a lot of homophobia out there and if it's not challenged boldly it's not going to go away. Don't get me wrong, people adding the fact that they're gay into every other sentence irritates me as much as the next person but I believe that if we try to alienate them then we're just making our cause weaker and broken when we need to stand tgether.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-78006008448959015462011-06-08T19:05:20.803+01:002011-06-08T19:05:20.803+01:00Well actually what you are trying to argue is part...Well actually what you are trying to argue is part of the main point to this blog. People should be within their right to be who they are, not what they are. Being 'loud and proud' and 'staight acting' as nothing to do with this blog as many people keep trying to make it be, this applies to both parties. I am not saying that people should 'fit in' as such. What I mean is that whether we are Gay or Straight we can all be the same at being different, if that even makes any sense. <br />I know that we are campaigning so that everyone can be different, but treated as equals, and people are not going to be treated as equals until they treat themselves as equals. How can straight people see us as equals if we are going to forever remind them otherwise?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093393218492406921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-28705685461293476972011-06-06T12:46:25.776+01:002011-06-06T12:46:25.776+01:00Well that is just the nicest comment ever and has ...Well that is just the nicest comment ever and has cheered my up on this gloomy Monday morning! Thank You! Some of my blogs I write them to make them slightly more controversial and to get a debate flowing with people, but I agree sometimes people just comment for the sake of an argument not debate.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093393218492406921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-51746000835107426572011-06-05T20:33:59.616+01:002011-06-05T20:33:59.616+01:00Nando i have read allot of yor blogs and I do find...Nando i have read allot of yor blogs and I do find the "Gay" ones more intresting because of the comments left on them. I aggree with what you are saying and do feel that the people commenting on them with "Bad vibes" are just looking for an argument or to stir things up. I also believe that this is your blog therefore you should be able to post what you believe without others telling you that you are "wrong"!! We were given the freedom of speach and freedom to express what you believe in for a reason and i would like to say good on you for saying what you think as some people may be to affraid of doing this because of the comments they get back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-22712629229281451672011-06-04T13:37:39.625+01:002011-06-04T13:37:39.625+01:00You have failed to crasp the concept of the blog, ...You have failed to crasp the concept of the blog, I never once tried to tell people what is being gay and what is not being gay, nor did I ever mention that I do like hanging around with 'effeminate people' as I mentioned I am pretty camp myself. As I clearly mentioned this is not a blog about how effeminate people are and I never put forward any of my opinion on that as that is a different subject all together so I think that you have got the wrong end of the stick when it comes down to this blog, it isn't about being over the top or masculine or whatever it is you are trying to claim I am against.<br /><br />This blog is actually about being yourself - being effeminate or being masculine or whatever it is you want to me, I am not giving off at 'screaming queens' as you are trying to say I am i clearly stated that was a different matter.<br /><br />My argument is clearly stated that people need to realise that it is not their sexuality that makes them who they are it is their personality and I thought an 'older fag' as you put it would recognise that more than anyone.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093393218492406921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-12336132397601166252011-06-04T12:48:26.374+01:002011-06-04T12:48:26.374+01:00This will be despite the fact that it has been arg...This will be despite the fact that it has been argued by several prominent psychologists that part of the coming out process and finding out about who you are is to gravitate from one extreme to another before finding a healthy balance. <br /><br />This is why you will get some guys who are incredibly effeminate and some guys who are masculine to the point of compensating. Its the equivalent of teenagers whining that their lives are always crap. Its all just part of becoming yourself. Its why you usually don't see full grown adults of say 30 and upwards doing the whole effeminate and overly masculine thing. They have been around long enough to find a balance. <br /><br />The same thing counts for people who always speak about being gay. Its like alcoholics talking about alcoholism or cancer patients talking about cancer, its how you come to terms with what is happening to you and who you are.<br /><br />Furthermore, who are you to say what being gay and not being gay is or ins't? People make their own identities and definitions based on their experiences and, so long as they are not harming you, what business is it of yours exactly? No one is forcing you to hang around effeminate people?<br /><br />I could go on but frankly I won't waste any more of your time and mine with this. I made several similar statements myself when I was your age about "screaming queens" and what have you but as I got older I really learned to care less about other people and what they were doing and focus more on what I was doing. <br /><br />Take some advice from an older fag like me: just calm down and try and see it from their point of view, yeah? People who are over the top and out there are usually more terrified of what's going on than you are. And you making comments like this ain't too helpful. Who the fuck wants to be normal and fit in anyways?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8336000407428225310.post-51413322212680416772011-06-03T18:02:08.516+01:002011-06-03T18:02:08.516+01:003rd paragraph is like perfection in word form. k.3rd paragraph is like perfection in word form. k.Éimearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17025845784042564321noreply@blogger.com